But What If He Beats Her?

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1394711/More-women-convicted-battering-men-domestic-violence-soars-years.html?ito=feeds-newsxml

I have heard this argument time and again in every discussion I have had on Catholic wives submitting to their husbands. Over and over again the old feminist victim lines of rape and violence against women by their men are used as an excuse to get out of their divinely ordained role as wife. The problem with these arguments are two fold:

1) It demeans men as a group. It buys into the feminist lie that given authority and power over a family, a man will brutalize and assault them with it. The God ordained relationship of Husband over wife becomes a relationship of probable oppressive tyrant over a traumatized and powerless victim, rather than a union with a defined and healthy hierarchy for the benefit and stability of the family. Then women wonder why men "don't want to commit." Men want to commit, they don't want to constantly compete with fictional phantoms and apologize for acts of brutality they never committed with a woman that sees a violent rapist lurking in the recesses of her husbands soul! But I digress.

2) Women are the more violent sex in domestic situations. The linked article is only the tip of the iceberg. As Steve Moxon points out in his rigorously referenced book the Woman Racket: The new science explaining how the sexes relate at work, at play, and in society, domestic violence is a 50/50 ratio. Moreover, in every category women do more physical damage to men than the other way round (chapter 10).  Indeed, Rape statistics are ruthlessly deconstructed to reveal the outright lies perpetrated against men about the true number of rapes and how they're used to conceal the plague of false rape claims (chapter 11). For another great source on these issues, refer to the massive book Legalizing Misandry: From Public Shame to Systematic Discrimination Against Men by Young and Nathanson.

Men are being scientifically shown to be the more passive and non violent component in heterosexual relationships. It seems unlikely, given the empirical evidence, that is safe to submit to a woman; not the other way round.

When one does the research one almost groans when they read the apologies of Catholic Apologists and proponents of Theology of the Body and "equal Submission in Marriage" go on about respecting and tenderness to the weaker vessel in a "non threatening manner" and how a "real man" knows how to differ to his wife. Meanwhile 76% of divorces are filed by women and only 2% are over domestic violence. The rest are over irreconcilable differences, whatever that means. Sadly Catholics are in lock step with the secular world on this feminist initiative. But these fallacies and lies keep coming up time and again as though it were a reality. It seems the Church, on average, has bought into this lie that men are naturally violent and cannot be trusted to have "Authority over their wives in all things" as St. Augustine says.

The problem is not so much with Catholic men as much as Catholic women. Who wants to marry a revolutionary always challenging and undercutting ones's legitimate authority? These women are not complicated and challenging, they are self-centred and violent. They need to stop getting relationship guidance from Vogue and start reading St. John Chrysostom's 'How to Choose a Wife'.

"He [God] divided our life into these two parts, and gave the more necessary and important to the man, but the lesser and inferior part to the woman. In this way He arranged that we should admire the man more because we need his service more, and that because the woman has a humbler form of service she would not rebel against her husband." (St. John Chrysostom On Marriage and Family Life p. 96-7)

Anti-woman or anti-feminist? To ask the question is to answer it...